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How To Be Less Triggered with Dr. Kelly Flanagan Why do the people we love most have the ability to trigger us the fastest?
In this conversation, Dr. Kelly Flanagan joins Jamie and Blake to explore what really happens when we move from connection into protection. Drawing from his new book, The Road Le
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Why do the people we love most have the ability to trigger us the fastest?
In this conversation, Dr. Kelly Flanagan joins Jamie and Blake to explore what really happens when we move from connection into protection. Drawing from his new book, The Road Less Triggered, Kelly explains how our nervous systems react to perceived threats, why our hearts close in moments of conflict, and how we can learn to stay present instead of becoming defensive.
Together, they unpack why anger is often a doorway into deeper emotions, how sadness gets blocked for many men, and why healing begins by asking not “What’s wrong with me?” but “What happened to me?” The conversation is practical, deeply compassionate, and full of memorable metaphors that make complex emotional dynamics easier to understand.
If you’ve ever felt hijacked by your reactions, struggled to stay open in conflict, or wondered why small moments create such big responses, this episode offers a hopeful path toward greater calm, freedom, and connection.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Why being triggered is normal—and doesn’t mean you’re brokenHow to move from protection mode back into connection modeWhy anger often points to sadness underneath the surfaceWhat it means to restore your sense of choice in conflictHow boundaries can be set with an open heartWhy healing turns 30-day conflicts into 30-second recoveriesCHAPTERS
(00:00) Introducing Kelly Flanagan and The Road Less Triggered(05:00) Turning 30 days of conflict into 30 seconds(10:00) What it actually means to be triggered(14:00) Restoring your sense of choice(18:00) Why your nervous system thinks you’re in danger(22:00) Jamie’s story of trauma and non-consensual touch(27:00) Loneliness: feeling unseen, misunderstood, and unsupported(31:00) Calmness before connectedness(34:00) Anger as a doorway into your emotional life(38:00) The sadness underneath anger and anxiety(48:00) Openhearted boundaries(52:00) Final reflections and practical application
LINKS & RESOURCES
Dr. Kelly FlanaganBook: The Road Less TriggeredThree PercentJoin The Basement (private community)KEYWORDS
Kelly Flanagan, The Road Less Triggered, Three Percent Podcast, emotional triggers, relationships, marriage, anger, sadness, boundaries, vulnerability, men’s mental health, nervous system, trauma and healing, connection, emotional regulation
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Release Date: 18/05/2026, 07:00:00
